Friday, July 3, 2009

The Children

so i was reading another woman's blog and she talked about how she changed into THAT mom. you know the one. she hovers over her children at the playground and yells at all the kids. anyway, it got me thinking. how have i changed? when i'm at home with my children and it's just the three of us i'm a lot different than when i'm with people. my children get yelled at and spanked at my house. no, i'm not abusing them, but i do lose my temper with them more if no one is around. yelling happens a lot, but i try to not spank them. at least i only do it maybe once a day and only use my open hand. my kids know when i've hit my limit. andrew will smile at me and tell me that he still loves me. that almost always melts my heart. emmy, who is not quite as articulate in these situations, just gives me a hug. that also gets me. i never thought that i would be an angry mom. why? because i knew absolutely everything about raising children. i was going to be the perfect mom whose children were darling little angels because i was prepared. i couldn't understand why some parents couldn't control their kids. well, for being so cocky i was awared my son andrew. he's so full of energy and he can be very naughty. at my house he has limits in what he can get into. i have locks on door and things like that. when we are in public i really just have to let him loose. otherwise i will lose it. now i don't wonder why people don't controll their children. they can't. at least to a certain point. children have their own personalities. they aren't just what we make them. i wonder what my kids will be like when they are older. can you believe that i'm actually looking forward to when they are older? i just know that someday i'll look back and laugh at how delusional i once was.

3 comments:

EmmaP said...

so, you feel you can't control him so why even try? is that it? lol!!! ok... no judging here... after all I KNOW I was the perfect mom... [wink, wink]...

I was never a spanker. i can count on one hand probably each time each child was ever spanked. but Keenan had a time-out chair. Kadin was a corner-stander and kienna has a right to her tantrums, but only in her bedroom... ha! anyway, as much as I love babies, I always felt I "connected" more with teenagers. So, I always looke forward to the day they became teens. (tho i don't think Keenan enjoys me at this age as much as I enjoy him! lol!)

Dianne said...

I am a firm believer in spanking. And there is a difference between spanking and beating. My kids are now 17 and 12 and know TO THIS DAY that I will spank them anywhere they need. In the middle of Walmart with all their friends looking on, doesn't bother me one bit. The key to whatever discipline plan you go with is consistency. Don't do one thing at home and another in public. I tell them I will get Biblical on them, you know spare the rod and spoil the child... My youngest tells me sometimes I need to quit sparing the rod on his brother! And they are really good kids, now. I don't have much trouble out of them, compared to what I see other kids doing. Love them enough to make them mind.

Handi Andi said...

I love this whole post. I say Amen to it all. I have felt this exact way millions of times, and been supremely jealous of those who seem to have it all together. Because I DON'T. And my kids are brats sometimes, and I turn into an evil monster sometimes. I can't deny it. You rock for putting it out there!